I'm at a point in my life where I'm so pissed at the picture we're painting as a nation on the canvas of posterity. Wipe that smile off your face and prepare for the hardest blow you've ever been hit, because I ain't gonna be gentle at all. Recent events have taken to the microwave oven some issues that have sat down too long in mind and have since gone cold; speeding up the heating process. Yeah, right now, they are steaming hot and they would burn you if time is not taken. It all comes down to this: for Nigeria to be sane nation, the society must be sane. For a society to be whole, the family must be whole. For us to have healthy family
environment, good enough to make a sane society and a good nation, individual members must be healthy, complete and whole; headed somewhere.
Here is how I'm going to go about it. I need you to break in two circles: boys’ camp & girls’ camp.
Girls, my fight is with you first of all, so gird your loins! Boys, draw near, because I'll need you to pass this on to your daughters!
YOU'RE SMARTER THAN YOU LOOK
I know the society has over the years made you think otherwise, but girl, you're smarter than you look. I'm not talking about some 'bottom' power here or some wicked witchcraft-like manipulations the female folks are known for. No, I'm talking about intellects, something like what we attribute to our men, only more. Yes, I said it "girl, you have more!" Psychology and Science have over the years shown that girls are smarter than boys their age. So, you wonder what's missing, right? Girls don't know this. Some even do, but prefer hand-downs they get from people to living up to their intellectual capacity. Issue is when you use that as your approach to life, you get dumber by the hour. You see, my dear, the brain is like a muscle; it gets stronger and it's capable of taking on bigger challenges as it is also very elastic! Some Canadian researchers/ scientist have shown that Albert Einstein’s brain was physically bigger than the average human being’s, my guess is that indeed the brain even get physically bigger as you use it.
So task your brain. How?
Engage yourself in sensible discuss with intellectuals. You may not start out talking immediately, but it will do you a whole world of good if you would listen.
Read, read and read some more. If they mention a word around you, read it up! If something comes to your mind, read it up. Read, read and read a bit more. I know you don't plan to be a career woman, but I know you want to marry a man that will always look forward to coming home. He will look forward to home because he knows there is someone at home to talk to about the issues at work that he's been finding hard to resolve; that's because he knows you'll both get it worked out together. Plus, if he's a dickhead, he knows better than to play pranks with you: because you'll outsmart him. So, babe, enough of playing stupid, cos you ain't!
GROOM UP
Now, this is for everybody. It's necessary you know what pertains and how to go about it. Enough of young people dragging their feet as they journey along, downtrodden by life! I need you to pick yourself up and equip yourself for the journey ahead. Where are you headed? Prepare yourself for what that position would demand of you and start to act the part. Yes I know we're not all headed same way in life but there are a few things we have in common.
Communication is one thing you cannot do without, because man is a social being. Learn communication skills that will help you pass the message across and get you what you want as a result.
Dress as you wish to be addressed, because, my dear, you sure will be addressed as such. I am not asking you to buy designers that you have no means of paying for, because even if you get the money today, how do you intend to meet up when it comes time to replace them. Dress simply, but don’t forget to look good while you are at it. In dressing up, you need to consider in this order: comfort, your liking it, looking good, passing across the right message. I know some people would say differently, but you should be able to wear top and jeans to meet the Queen and a Princely robe to meet the pauper down the road and not look out of place. It’s all in your carriage which springs out from your being comfortable in and liking what you’re wearing.
Yes, your manners: Gratitude, humility, kindness and self-respect! Gratitude places you in the comfortable arms of contentment and love for life. Knowing that all we have access to are privileges granted us by the Most High, put us in the position to receive even more. It puts the stress of living at the minimum level it could be. Humility places you simply in your rightful place. Humility is you being aware of yourself. Knowing who you are is not dependent on a position of power or the lack of it; knowing that you have something to bring to the table. You should knowing your worth, not undermining it or blowing it out of proportion. Kindness to others is actually a service to self. Have ever seen a functioning fountain that is not wet in itself? When you give kindness to others, you’re simply giving it to yourself. It is said that respect is reciprocal, yes it’s true. That is why I believe self-respect is very important, as you cannot give what you do not have. You cannot respect others if you don’t respect yourself. So, show some respect, starting with you!
PART 2 to be out in a week's time.
Disclaimers: these lines were written with you in mind, so if you think I'm talking about you, then I am!
-OluSeyi
Find me on twitter as Im_a_MARVEL
environment, good enough to make a sane society and a good nation, individual members must be healthy, complete and whole; headed somewhere.
Here is how I'm going to go about it. I need you to break in two circles: boys’ camp & girls’ camp.
Girls, my fight is with you first of all, so gird your loins! Boys, draw near, because I'll need you to pass this on to your daughters!
YOU'RE SMARTER THAN YOU LOOK
I know the society has over the years made you think otherwise, but girl, you're smarter than you look. I'm not talking about some 'bottom' power here or some wicked witchcraft-like manipulations the female folks are known for. No, I'm talking about intellects, something like what we attribute to our men, only more. Yes, I said it "girl, you have more!" Psychology and Science have over the years shown that girls are smarter than boys their age. So, you wonder what's missing, right? Girls don't know this. Some even do, but prefer hand-downs they get from people to living up to their intellectual capacity. Issue is when you use that as your approach to life, you get dumber by the hour. You see, my dear, the brain is like a muscle; it gets stronger and it's capable of taking on bigger challenges as it is also very elastic! Some Canadian researchers/ scientist have shown that Albert Einstein’s brain was physically bigger than the average human being’s, my guess is that indeed the brain even get physically bigger as you use it.
So task your brain. How?
Engage yourself in sensible discuss with intellectuals. You may not start out talking immediately, but it will do you a whole world of good if you would listen.
Read, read and read some more. If they mention a word around you, read it up! If something comes to your mind, read it up. Read, read and read a bit more. I know you don't plan to be a career woman, but I know you want to marry a man that will always look forward to coming home. He will look forward to home because he knows there is someone at home to talk to about the issues at work that he's been finding hard to resolve; that's because he knows you'll both get it worked out together. Plus, if he's a dickhead, he knows better than to play pranks with you: because you'll outsmart him. So, babe, enough of playing stupid, cos you ain't!
GROOM UP
Now, this is for everybody. It's necessary you know what pertains and how to go about it. Enough of young people dragging their feet as they journey along, downtrodden by life! I need you to pick yourself up and equip yourself for the journey ahead. Where are you headed? Prepare yourself for what that position would demand of you and start to act the part. Yes I know we're not all headed same way in life but there are a few things we have in common.
Communication is one thing you cannot do without, because man is a social being. Learn communication skills that will help you pass the message across and get you what you want as a result.
Dress as you wish to be addressed, because, my dear, you sure will be addressed as such. I am not asking you to buy designers that you have no means of paying for, because even if you get the money today, how do you intend to meet up when it comes time to replace them. Dress simply, but don’t forget to look good while you are at it. In dressing up, you need to consider in this order: comfort, your liking it, looking good, passing across the right message. I know some people would say differently, but you should be able to wear top and jeans to meet the Queen and a Princely robe to meet the pauper down the road and not look out of place. It’s all in your carriage which springs out from your being comfortable in and liking what you’re wearing.
Yes, your manners: Gratitude, humility, kindness and self-respect! Gratitude places you in the comfortable arms of contentment and love for life. Knowing that all we have access to are privileges granted us by the Most High, put us in the position to receive even more. It puts the stress of living at the minimum level it could be. Humility places you simply in your rightful place. Humility is you being aware of yourself. Knowing who you are is not dependent on a position of power or the lack of it; knowing that you have something to bring to the table. You should knowing your worth, not undermining it or blowing it out of proportion. Kindness to others is actually a service to self. Have ever seen a functioning fountain that is not wet in itself? When you give kindness to others, you’re simply giving it to yourself. It is said that respect is reciprocal, yes it’s true. That is why I believe self-respect is very important, as you cannot give what you do not have. You cannot respect others if you don’t respect yourself. So, show some respect, starting with you!
PART 2 to be out in a week's time.
Disclaimers: these lines were written with you in mind, so if you think I'm talking about you, then I am!
-OluSeyi
Find me on twitter as Im_a_MARVEL
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